March 12


Build an Unbreakable Mindset Part 1: You are Good Enough


When life throws us a curveball, it can be hard to stay resilient and unbreakable. But having an unbreakable mindset during a crisis is essential for facing the challenge head-on and achieving the best possible outcome. One of the key components in developing an unbreakable mindset is knowing that you are good enough. In other words, possessing a strong sense of self-love that helps you know that are worthy of your best life. And, even in the toughest times, you are capable of developing unbreakable resilience.

This article will explore why it is essential to feel good enough when facing a crisis and offer tips on how to improve your self-love through its four dimensions of self-acceptance, self-compassion, self-esteem, and self-respect.

Four Fundamental Premises of Self-Worth

Before jumping into the dimensions of self-love, there are four fundamental premises that support your inherent worthiness. The fact is that you have been, are now, and always will be good enough.

You are a miracle.

Out of trillions of stars and many more planets in the known universe, you ended up on this planet. Humans have been on this planet for 300,000 years, and you are living now in this place and at this time. Out of 100 million sperm cells from your father, only one made it to your mother’s egg. There are a trillion cells in your body that each know their function and work together. Your body adapts to the environment and heals itself. Your brain is the most advanced learning machine ever invented. And the greatest mystery of all is that you have a consciousness that allows you to experience the world and choose to live your life the way you want. You are truly a miracle.

You are perfectly adapted.

Your mind and body have adapted perfectly to your environment. When faced with difficult circumstances, it can feel like everything around you is constantly changing — but so are you. Your mind is constantly adapting to your surroundings, and your body follows suit. This means that you have the innate ability to adjust, even if things don’t feel like they will ever get better. Those things that seem like flaws to you are not. They are perfect adaptations to your lifestyle, environment, and thinking.

You are a work in progress.

You can never get it wrong, and you are never done. You are a work in progress. Your past failures are never final. They are feedback. The wounds from your past trauma can lead to wisdom if you learn from it.

Life crises present you with opportunities for growth. And even though even though change can be hard, it can also bring positive growth. Just remember, not everything will happen overnight. Meaningful change takes time. So, be patient in your progress. And never forget, your inherent value remains the same: you are good enough just as you are.

You are here on purpose and for a purpose.

You were not an accident or the result of random chance. You were purposely put on this planet to be part of something great — something bigger than yourself. The universe had a plan for you, and even when life gets hard, know that there’s still a reason you are here.

A life crisis can leave you feeling unfulfilled, but it is important to remember that you have a unique purpose in this world. It doesn’t matter if no one else understands it. What matters is that it’s important to you. You are here for a reason, and your value lies beyond what any external circumstance could ever define.

Find your passion and follow it unapologetically. Live out your purpose unafraid of what anyone else may think of it because ultimately, only you can fulfill your destiny. Remember, you are capable of achieving your highest potential, and that overcoming crises is part of the growth journey.

Why is it Essential to Feel Good Enough When Facing a Crisis?

When going through a difficult time, your sense of self can be challenged. You can become fixated on the negative and start to doubt your worthiness, even if you are usually unshaken. But having an unshakeable belief in yourself is essential for facing life’s challenges with unbreakable resilience.

When you know that you are good enough, it helps create a sense of security and safety in yourself, even when life is trying to push you over. It allows you to have faith in your own ability, to navigate any situation, and to overcome the most challenging situations

Having self-love also helps boost your mental and emotional wellbeing during a crisis. When you are unkind to yourself or unaccepting of your flaws, it creates a sense of resentment and despair. But when you practice self-love, it can help alleviate any feelings of inadequacy associated with the situation.

The Four Dimensions of Self-Love

The four dimensions of self-love are acceptance, self-compassion, self-esteem, and self-respect. Acceptance is the awareness that you are worthy and valuable exactly as you are. Compassion is being kind to yourself in times of difficulty, offering yourself understanding instead of harsh criticism. Self-esteem is about having a positive view of yourself and recognizing your inherent self-worth. Finally, self-respect is having a deep appreciation for who you are and your place in this world.


Self-acceptance is the concept of recognizing and accepting yourself as you are — both your strengths and weaknesses. It requires self-reflection, understanding, and an awareness that no one is perfect.

Practicing self-acceptance involves acknowledging your mistakes but also seeing yourself for all you have to offer. Self-acceptance means recognizing your human limitations, but also celebrating your unique gifts and potential. It is knowing that you are enough — just as you are.

Here are three ways to build greater self-acceptance:

1) Letting Go Of Guilt: When reflecting on past events, it is important to let go of any feelings of guilt. Don’t beat yourself up for making mistakes now or in the past. Begin by forgiving yourself and others who may have wronged you. Forgiveness frees you from the bonds of the past, so that you can fully live in the present.

2) Separate The Negative Emotion: In order to view events objectively, it is important to unhook the negative emotion associated with them. This means being able to distance yourself from any pain or discomfort that you may have experienced in the past and unravelling your own story without judgement. When past events are painful, we don’t want to think about them because it hurts. However, you can never learn from past events if you don’t objectively reflect on them.

3) Reframe Past Failures: Instead of viewing past failures as an indication of your own worth, try to reframe them as feedback for learning. You can also look back on past traumas and see them as a gift for strength. It can be something that has made you stronger. It can even become a gift for you to help others.


Self-compassion is the practice of showing kindness and understanding to yourself, especially in difficult or challenging times. It involves recognizing that you are human and imperfect, but also seeing yourself as worthy of love and compassion despite your flaws. Self-compassion helps to alleviate any feelings of guilt or shame associated with past mistakes and allows us to view ourselves with kindness and understanding. It can also help to build a sense of resilience in the face of crisis, as it allows us to access our inner strength and self-worth. By practicing self-compassion, we can become unshakeable in the face of life’s struggles.

Here are three ways to build greater self-compassion:

1) Choose Self-Kindness Over Judgment: When we are unkind to ourselves, it can create a sense of despair and worthlessness. To practice self-compassion, it is important to choose self-kindness over judgment. This means letting go of any unhelpful thoughts or opinions and choosing to treat yourself with kindness instead.

2) Choose Common Humanity Over Isolation: Practicing self-compassion also involves recognizing that we all experience suffering and difficulty in life. It is a part of the human experience. This means being able to connect with our shared humanity, instead of isolating yourself from others who may have gone through similar struggles.

3) Choose Mindfulness Instead of Over-Identification: Self-compassion also means being mindful rather than over-identifying with your emotions. This can involve taking a few moments to observe your thoughts and feelings without getting swept away in them. It is important to be aware that thoughts are temporary, and that you don’t have to be overwhelmed by them. Remember, you are not your thoughts and feelings. You have thoughts. You have feelings. Who you are is greater than your thoughts and feelings.


Self-esteem is the concept of believing in our own value and worth. It involves recognizing that we are equal to others, and viewing ourselves as valuable and capable individuals — regardless of our mistakes or shortcomings.

Self-esteem means recognizing that we all have inherent value and uniqueness. Our value cannot be taken away by anyone or anything. It requires us to view ourselves and others as equally valuable and unique. With healthy self-esteem, you can face life’s challenges with courage and resilience.

Here are three ways to build greater self-esteem:

1) Choose Unconditional Self-Worth: To practice self-esteem, it is important to focus on improving your own sense of unconditional self-worth. Avoid comparisons between yourself and others. Focus instead on your own unique qualities and strengths. Recognize that you are capable and valuable regardless of your mistakes or shortcomings.

2) Choose Inherent Value Over Comparative Value: You have inherent worth and value. It cannot be taken away. You can only give it away. Start by letting go of any unhelpful beliefs about yourself such as feeling inferior to others. You are equally valuable and unique. You are as good as and no better than anyone else.

3) View Yourself and Others as Equally Valuable and Unique: Healthy self-esteem recognizes the value of others. Everyone has unique strengths and weaknesses. By embracing your unshakable self-esteem, you can approach life with a sense of possibility and passion.


Self-respect is the concept of learning how to live according to our most deeply held values and beliefs. It involves taking radical responsibility for our lives, and understanding that we are in control of how we choose to live. This includes being mindful of our thoughts, words, and actions, and making sure they align with what we believe to be right or true.

1) Live Authentically: To practice self-respect, it is important to unapologetically be yourself. This can involve letting go of any unhelpful beliefs about yourself. Instead, embrace your uniqueness even if that means going against the grain of society or popular opinion.

2) Take Radical Responsibility: Self-respect also requires you to take radical responsibility for your life. While you may not control all of the things that happen to you, you completely control how you choose to respond. While others may share in the blame, blame never fixes anything. Only your thoughts and actions can improve the situation. This means being mindful of your thoughts, words, and actions, and making sure they align with what you believe to be right or true.

3) Establish Value-Based Boundaries: To practice self-respect, it is also important to establish value-based boundaries. This means understanding what is beneficial and unhelpful in your life. Become unapologetic in your choice to say “no” when necessary. By embracing boundaries that are based on your values, you honor your self-worth. By living authentically according to your highest values and beliefs, you can cultivate healthy self-respect.


In conclusion, self-love is essential to help us stay grounded and resilient when facing life’s challenges. To cultivate self-love, it is important to appreciate our inherent worth and value — something which cannot be taken away by anyone or anything. We must learn how to live authentically and unapologetically according to our values and beliefs, while still respecting others. Finally, we must practice unconditional self-acceptance, self-compassion, self-esteem, and self-respect. Each are essential elements in cultivating healthy self-love. Healthy self-love is the foundation of an unbreakable mindset. And, building an unbreakable mindset builds the resilience you need to face this and any future life crisis.

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Bruce Fleck, PhD

About the Bruce Fleck, PhD

I help professionals overcome a health, career, or relationship crisis and make it a turning point for building a better life.

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